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March 3, 2012

Our older son’s 10th birthday party is today, and this is the easiest birthday party we’ve ever planned.

I’m not sure if it’s because we’re divorced, because we each have enough living space now so the party isn’t going to be a cramped thing in one of our NYC apartments or else held in a public space, or just because we have lower expectations now, but this has been no big deal.

Back when we were still married, every detail was up for debate, and it all turned into a big hairy deal. Who we were inviting, what the theme was, what we’d serve, what the cake or cupcakes would look like, blah blah blah. It was endless, and stressful. This time we just divided and conquered: he took location (the tricked out Wii and room to get wild playing the Wii are at his house), I took food and invitation, and we’re splitting the alcohol for any parents who choose to stay instead of drop off.

It does make it far easier that he has plenty of space now for exuberant Wii-playing in his house now, instead of the more restrained playing that would have had to have happened in either of our old apartments. I lent him my vacuum for post-party clean-up.

And it’s a lot easier to do a party for just a few kids and not have a theme (aside from let’s play Wii and eat a bunch of vegan cupcakes!!11!!). Here’s to kids growing older and being easier to please.

Now I just have to figure out where my muffin tins are to bake these vegan cupcakes.

5 Comments leave one →
  1. Cat permalink
    March 5, 2012 8:24 am

    My ex has never done anything to help with our son’s birthday parties other than a task or two on the day of. He just doesn’t do things like that. He’s a photographer, so you think he would have at least said “I’ll document the day” but no, he doesn’t do pictures of people unless I expressly say “would you please take some good pictures of our son at his birthday party”. I have planned themed and un-themed parties throughout the last 17 years, and IF he even was there, he was simply in charge of the grilling of the burgers or some other equally simple, task. You are lucky to have been married to a grown-up!

  2. MomPlusKid permalink
    March 12, 2012 8:48 pm

    Why vegan cupcakes? And 2) were they good?

  3. momgawaga permalink
    March 13, 2012 8:14 am

    I think the amount of physical space really helps, as well as the lessening of parental expectations. Since we moved from NYC right after Q turned 1, we’ve had just regular old-timey birthday parties with only the loosest of themes. One outside treasure hunt activity (collected treasure items = goody bag equivalent), and then kids running around playing in the backyard until it’s time for food & cupcakes. Done.
    I’ve noticed, however, that most of my friends who have kids in NYC or SF, however, have to do a lot more planning around locale – and those locales typically have their own themes, etc. It seems a lot more expensive & a lot more work.

  4. askmoxie permalink*
    March 13, 2012 11:50 am

    Cat, LOD loves a party. It’s a shame he couldn’t have helped you with your parties. He’s also remarkably good at cake decorating. he did a Wallace and Gromit cake one year that was fantastic.

    M+K: One of the kids is vegan, and I didn’t want to make anyone not able to participate. I used a quickie “recipe” from a friend for the cupcakes (1 box cake mix with no animal ingredients plus one can soda, bake) and they were kind of fluffy and squishy but tasted good. The frosting was my mom’s old chocolate frosting recipe but I subbed in coconut oil for the Crisco and coconut milk for the cow milk. It was sublime.

    momgawaga: Yes. So much. Although I have to say that the party we did at the Brooklyn Transit Museum was probably the easiest party ever. I might have my 40th birthday party there.

  5. March 13, 2012 2:24 pm

    Everyone should have their own vacuum. Its a must. And a broom. 🙂

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