Bite Sized Therapy (long-time AskMoxie.org reader; first-time WTFGU commenter) said that going through mediation and making decisions is all about “what you can live with.”
I absolutely believed that when we went through mediation to negotiate the terms of our divorce settlement. But my understanding is different now.
Not to get all WJC on you, but it really depends on what your definition of “live” is.
Does that mean that both parents grit their teeth and suffer through it for the sake of the children? Or that one parent suffers through it while the other comes out ostensibly “on top”? Or could there be some way to create value for both parents so that they’re both actually living living? In an “I hope you dance” kind of way, only not cheesy?
I’m hoping that’s what we end up doing in this mediation, instead of the other way. Because the whole purpose of getting a divorce is to try to make things better. So why not really make them better, in a big way?